We have a guest post this week, from Liz at WeLoveDates.com
As the social media manager for a worldwide online dating site, relationship blogger and all around wanna-be Carrie Bradshaw type girl, I tell women all the time to avoid falling for a guy on the first date. There is a part of me though that wants to tell them that stranger things have happened, and that falling in love on the first date can happen…because it happened to me.
I was in the midst of an online dating whirlwind. You know, when the stars, sun and moon align and you’re having so much fun emailing and talking to guys online and have dates planned every weekend? Things were clicking, and at one point I was having such a blast that the thought of a long term relationship was the furthest thing from my mind. But of course, isn’t that always what happens right before you fall hard for someone?
The particular guy in question was hard to nail down. He only checked his online dating inbox sporadically and since he took a week to respond to simple “How was your day?” messages, I wrote him off as either not interested or not interesting. There were too many other guys to distract me. But, somehow we became friends on Facebook and I spent more time than I’d like to admit combing through his profile and liking what I saw. Every time I logged into my online dating account, I’d hope there was a message from this mysterious handsome stranger.
We finally scheduled a date-margaritas and Mexican food at the best place in town. As a seasoned online dater, I went into the whole thing knowing to keep my expectations low. I’d long learned that it’s much better to be pleasantly surprised than to be disappointed. Truth be told, I made plans with another online date for later on that night, which goes to show how I was not expecting to fall head over heels in love.
I’m a writer, I should be able to find a more eloquent way to describe our date other than-It was the best first date ever. It was one of those dates where you almost can’t believe it’s happening to you, and you know that no matter what happens with you and the man sitting across from you that you will never forget this moment. You feel lucky just to have been apart of it.
Of course, an incredible first date doesn’t equal a great relationship. We didn’t go from margaritas and hysterical laughter to living happily ever after. It’s been a winding road. But sometimes, I look over at him and get the same feeling I had when I was sitting across from him in the Mexican restaurant. I can’t help but feel lucky.