Posted by: Shar & Mare | March 22, 2010

Planning that Big First Date

We have a guest post this week from our friends over at Enjoy…

Nothing compares to the anticipation and expectation of an exciting first date, especially when the two of you have been getting to know each other and feeling the sparks for a long time online. You’ve revealed some details about yourselves, made some cool connections, enjoyed some synchronicity, and shared more than a few grins and giggles. Finally you are ready to take the rapport to the next level and meet for that long overdue first date.

Here are three expert tips for planning it so that your chances of having the time of your life are greatly enhanced.

Ditch the Dinner and a Movie Concept

Dinner and a movie works fine in the movies, but sitting silently in a theatre watching a film that one or both of you may not like is a high risk proposition. Taste in movies is way too individual and picky, and you should spend your time talking and getting to know each other, not staring at the silver screen and munching popcorn. Go dancing, go to hear a band, go for a hike, or just stroll around town sampling desserts in cafes. The idea is to do something that lets you have opportunities to talk while participating in an active that you are both guaranteed to enjoy.

Daytime Dates are Fun Too

Dating does not just have to happen after work or at night on the weekend. Some of the most fun-filled dates happen over lunch or while doing daylight activities like going out to the beach or taking a picnic to the park. Whether you stroll through a museum, browse the shelves in a bookstore, or head out to a paint ball shooting range or the tennis court, there are plenty of great ways to plan a daytime date.

Bring Along Friends

Perhaps the best way to learn about a person is to get to know their friends, so if you are meeting an online date for your first experience of face time, why not make it a group gathering with friends? You can all reserve a big table at your favorite sushi or pizza place, for example, and if things with your date go really well your friends can eventually head off their separate ways to give the two of you some one-on-one time. If the chemistry isn’t there then at least you’ve both gotten to know a few new people, and being in a group takes the pressure off of each of you to make it all more casual and carefree.

One thing to always plan into any first date is convenient contingencies or options. If you start off on a day hike and it starts to rain, have a backup plan prepared so the whole date is not a flop. You’re excited about going disco dancing together but you find the dance floor too crowded or the DJ too dull.

If you’ve got a few other ideas in mind already then you don’t have to skip a beat and instead of those bumps in the road being setbacks to your relationship they can bring out your mutually shared spontaneity. That keeps the date going and also keeps the romantic energy flowing in the right direction.

Written by Tom Kerry a writer for, a site that specializes in dating, online dating advice, and reviews of online dating sites.


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