Met a guy on line who is great. I love being with him. My only problem is that he sweats alot … I mean .. A lot! And as a result, he is quick to get very smelly. And the odor is terrible. I think he might be the guy for me, but this persistent problem is something that could be a deal breaker.
Ewwww….gross. I feel your pain, I have a sensitive sense of smell and since the cult of bad hygiene lives among us….well, UGH so hard to just walk down the street sometimes.
But this is not someone you’re just passing on the street and, if you like him enough to be stressing out about dealing with his um…aroma, then you need to address it. It’s harder to tell a person about their hygiene than it is to break up with them sometimes, but it can be done. There are lots of great articles available about how to approach this touchy subject. No matter what approach you choose, remember to start out on a high note by letting him know about all the positives in your relationship. Also keep in mind – he could have a health condition that he doesn’t know about, and that could be where you start the discussion.
If it is just basic hygiene then, look at the bright side, you could suggest showering together as a way of demonstrating good health habits!!
A smelly guy that you like … this is a touchy situation. But, if you really think you care for him then you owe it to him to be honest … and this will not be easy to address. But, figure out how and when you want to approach it and re-inforce that you like him and that you hope he can find some resolution to inhibit his sweat glands. I hope it works out. And, you may want to talk to your doctor or dermatologist before just to better understand some of the underlying causes that could be the source of his problem and it will help you in discussing it fully with him.