I recently got into a discussion with the person I am dating about cheating. I personally would not be so forgiving. He said he might and made the point that until you are in the situation it is hard for you to know exactly what you would do.
He is right.
But what is cheating and when do you forgive it? Exclusive to me means you are not actively pursuing a relationship. But, if someone walks into your life who might be the more right one than you are dating — do you give it a shot?
Now, if one is engaged, you are making a committment to that person. But, I had an aunt who used to say, “Engagements can be broken.”
So, I think that if you are engaged or married and your mate steps out with someone else, then that is cheating.
This is a HOT button and I am amazed at how differently people respond or react to this question.
I am a person who falls very slowly. I don’t jump into the “I love you’s” quickly and I need a strong base of feeling and trust to consider someone a friend. But, when I do, if I make a committment to that person then for me it is deep and forever and my loyalty abounds. But, if that person steps out with another person, then that is a betrayal of the worst kind. A dis-respecting of my heart that someone who loves you does not do. And that, for me … I am now concluding … is cheating.
What do you think is cheating? Acceptable? And, most importantly … forgiveable?
I want to hear from you!