As people get older, they get a stronger sense of who they are, what they want, what is acceptable and what is not. This self-understanding is very important to getting involved with someone. You must know who you are before you can give your heart to another. If you don’t, you run the risk of being taken over by the other person and doing what they want and not necessarily what you want.
I think it would be very prudent for each person dating to really sit with themselves and spend time to evaluate their life, what is important to them and what they are looking for. Knowing yourself keeps balance in a relationship all the while, you remain true to your values, hopes and dreams.
Some people can be very convincing to get you to change or do something you don’t want to. I caution you and recommend you hone yourself and instinct to know if/when someone is taking advantage of you. And, to know and love and respect yourself enough to stand up for what is right for you.
Part of knowing ourselves is to know our weaknesses or bad patterns and to ensure we do not fall into those traps or let them prevent you from having who or what you want. That is just as important as knowing your self.
I recently broke up with someone I was dating and a friend of mine said to me, “that is very brave of you.” I queried “why?” She replied, “because you are alone now and don’t have anyone.” I said, “I know who I am and what I want, and if the person I am dating does not envelop that, then I need to protect myself and my heart and not lead him on and end it and move on and hope the universe and God provide me with what I do want and is good for me.” I don’t consider breaking up a relationship because it is not all you want as brave. I view it as necessary for you to achieve your hopes and dreams and not settle. And, when you know yourself, this is an easy decision.
Does knowing yourself, the good and bad, help you in making the right relationship choices in your life? Please share!