Posted by: Shar & Mare | January 9, 2012

Feeling Special – A 2-Way Street

Dating a christian manEveryone deserves to feel special. Appreciated. Loved. A relationship remains in balance when people express this in some way … whether it is a card, a grand gesture or a simple surprise.

I think it is very important in not only friendships, but in dating relationships to make sure you let the person you are with know how special they are to you. We all get caught up in the mundane responsibilities of life. It is very easy to become complacent and plod along without fanfare. But, I have discovered that life needs fanfare and needs celebrations and needs moments of surprises. It keeps life fun and interesting.

I am a work-a-holic. There, I admitted it. I have many irons in the fire and can easily become a slave to my never ending TO DO list. But, I know this. And when I see I have fallen into the abyss, I plan “something” to get me out … an escape that leads me back to the fun world of doing something different.

If we truly love someone, we want them to be happy … we want to please them … we want to make sure their needs are put ahead of our own (as long as they don’t cross any value system). And we hope our mate reciprocates.

Is your loved one stressed? Had a bad day? Worked long hours? Have a sick family member? All this drains our emotional energy. To recharge that for our mate is important. Whether that is in a tiny card left in their computer bag, a series of fun e-cards, one single real or chocolate rose when you come to go out … all are ways to let the person we are with know we are thinking of them and think they are special.

Gestures do not have to be grand or sweeping … although that is nice too. But, small little tender thoughts or actions all contribute towards solidifying that loving bond and letting your mate know that your happiness is important to them.

What do you do to make your loved one feel special?



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